When Your Gifts & Talents Take You Places Your Flaws Won’t Keep You...

 

I remember when I was starting out with my psych courses— I had a “Positive Psychology” class. Good class— some worthwhile information. But as I started noticing the trending of Positive Psychology in all other industry, e.g., work, social media, sports, and then but not lastly— in the church... I started taking notice. And it caught my ear because what was starting to happen wasn’t necessarily “positive.” But what was happening was coddling— and because people were being coddled— they were being misled.

So yes— you are beautiful—but it doesn’t mean you don’t need to acknowledge that you are neglecting some other facet of your well-being —that needs to be remedied — yes you are capable of accomplishing great things, but it doesn’t mean no one should speak to you or counsel you about your lack of integrity or lack of competence —and yes — you are totally active in your social media presence — but it doesn’t mean that you or others in your circle should IGNORE that just because you talk loud—doesn’t mean you aren’t talking incorrectly, unchecked, and ignorantly — by ignoring that, you are failing yourself in other ways. So, this idea of positivity has and is continuing to mislead people into places where the mismanagement of the other TRUTH shows up —and when that happens—“falling from grace”, by the “world’s” standards, becomes eminent all because of that thing we were too “positive” to confront— then your good gets spoken evil of. The living Word of God says, “Therefore do not let your good be spoken of as evil.” NOW that text is abstract and clearly has a larger framework, but it is indeed a relevant point of reference. 

The point is — because someone is either afraid to be honest with you or because this misconstrued ideology that people are “hating on you” dominates culture—also means that without true, healthy, honest and loving counsel—you (we) are very likely to find ourselves moving forward only to end up managing negative fallout and consequences because we are so easily offended by truth telling. I don’t (refuse) to surround myself with people that won’t challenge me— tell me the truth because they don’t want me to fail vs. people that won’t tell me that “my slip is hanging”, as I once heard my grandmother say; all the while anticipating my failure.

So, if you only welcome the “positive”; I assure you that the TRUTHS that you deny will show up in a big way —usually a detrimental way.

Absolutely—be positive—but also be honest about the not so positive (harmful) realities that abide alongside your gifts—and work on those things as hard as you work on the positive things too! 💜🙏🏾❤️🕊

In Love,

Copyright © 2021 by Christie Y. Shaw

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